All Systems Go!
On New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day each year, I sit down
with my journal and look back over the ending year at what went well and what
didn’t. Then I decide what I want more and less of in the coming year and plan
ways to make those goals happen. The year seldom goes the way I’ve envisioned,
of course, because of all the unexpected things that will come up, but at least
I have a plan. It’s easier to adjust an existing plan than to keep coming up
with one from scratch all year long. This is a tradition I’ve come to rely on
at each year’s end.
with my journal and look back over the ending year at what went well and what
didn’t. Then I decide what I want more and less of in the coming year and plan
ways to make those goals happen. The year seldom goes the way I’ve envisioned,
of course, because of all the unexpected things that will come up, but at least
I have a plan. It’s easier to adjust an existing plan than to keep coming up
with one from scratch all year long. This is a tradition I’ve come to rely on
at each year’s end.
Only, at the end of 2013, I was laid flat with pneumonia—and
on top of that, I couldn’t read or write because the illness or one of the meds
I took for it made my eyes and head hurt so. Consequently, the year ended and
2014 came in without my usual stock-taking and goal-setting. I’m only getting
to it now in mid-January as I dig out from under the piled-up correspondence
and backlog of work that had to be put off while I was sick.
on top of that, I couldn’t read or write because the illness or one of the meds
I took for it made my eyes and head hurt so. Consequently, the year ended and
2014 came in without my usual stock-taking and goal-setting. I’m only getting
to it now in mid-January as I dig out from under the piled-up correspondence
and backlog of work that had to be put off while I was sick.
I’m not sure that mid-January isn’t a better time to do the yearly
inventory and plan anyway. It seems to me that I’m taking a more realistic look
at things than I usually do in the optimistic, holiday glow. One of the main
things I’ve fixated on is the need to revamp the systems in my life. You know,
those sets of habits and schedules that keep daily life functioning and keep us
on track with our deadlines, obligations, and ambitions.
inventory and plan anyway. It seems to me that I’m taking a more realistic look
at things than I usually do in the optimistic, holiday glow. One of the main
things I’ve fixated on is the need to revamp the systems in my life. You know,
those sets of habits and schedules that keep daily life functioning and keep us
on track with our deadlines, obligations, and ambitions.
I hadn’t really revamped mine after I began publishing
novels. I adjusted to cover the demands of the publisher to promote my books
and the need to travel more on book tour—as a poet, those had not been a
necessity. I adjusted to meet the frequent deadlines, another thing that had
not been a part of my life as a poet. No one cares when your next book of
poetry is done. You write your first and try to get it published for years. Then
you write the next, and even if one or more publishers are waiting for it, they
aren’t expecting it at any time in the near future. I had deadlines with the
grant cycles, of course—poets live off grants much more than off book sales,
which are usually miniscule—but my life in the past few years had essentially
been transformed into something wild and alien to the life I lived before my
first novel won a national novel competition. And every year, I tried to make
it work better without making fundamental changes to the way I was doing things
in my daily life—because that’s hard and takes much time and thought. That
basically meant adding more and more work expectations and watching everything
else in my life fall away.
novels. I adjusted to cover the demands of the publisher to promote my books
and the need to travel more on book tour—as a poet, those had not been a
necessity. I adjusted to meet the frequent deadlines, another thing that had
not been a part of my life as a poet. No one cares when your next book of
poetry is done. You write your first and try to get it published for years. Then
you write the next, and even if one or more publishers are waiting for it, they
aren’t expecting it at any time in the near future. I had deadlines with the
grant cycles, of course—poets live off grants much more than off book sales,
which are usually miniscule—but my life in the past few years had essentially
been transformed into something wild and alien to the life I lived before my
first novel won a national novel competition. And every year, I tried to make
it work better without making fundamental changes to the way I was doing things
in my daily life—because that’s hard and takes much time and thought. That
basically meant adding more and more work expectations and watching everything
else in my life fall away.
While ill, I had time to really think about all of this, albeit
in a dazed, doped-up, miserable way. And I came to the conclusion that it’s not
working well for me. Oh, the novel-writing/publishing part is going well
because that’s where all of my energy and time have been focused, but most of the
things I did to provide stress relief, enrich my family and home, and basically
create a happy, healthy life had fallen by the boards from lack of time.
in a dazed, doped-up, miserable way. And I came to the conclusion that it’s not
working well for me. Oh, the novel-writing/publishing part is going well
because that’s where all of my energy and time have been focused, but most of the
things I did to provide stress relief, enrich my family and home, and basically
create a happy, healthy life had fallen by the boards from lack of time.
This is not the first time I’ve come to this kind of
discovery. I’m a quadruple Scorpio, and my base tendency is to go into
something with all my energy and focus. I’m usually left picking up pieces and
making major adjustments later. Passion is the great theme of my life, and balance
is the great lesson I have to learn—again and again in new ways.
discovery. I’m a quadruple Scorpio, and my base tendency is to go into
something with all my energy and focus. I’m usually left picking up pieces and
making major adjustments later. Passion is the great theme of my life, and balance
is the great lesson I have to learn—again and again in new ways.
In 2014, my aim is to focus more on balance in my life. I
intend to keep the energy and forward progress in my career as a mystery writer,
but I want to restructure the basic systems of my life to make it possible for
me to include more non-work time with my husband and family—Ben’s seen plenty
of me only because he’s spent all his vacation time with me on tour—more
important health activities—exercise has been one of the important things to
fall by the wayside and I must find a way to eat healthier when on tour—and
more relaxation and de-stressing activities. (Microsoft Word’s autocorrect kept
trying to change “de-stressing” to “distressing.” What is it trying to tell
me?)
intend to keep the energy and forward progress in my career as a mystery writer,
but I want to restructure the basic systems of my life to make it possible for
me to include more non-work time with my husband and family—Ben’s seen plenty
of me only because he’s spent all his vacation time with me on tour—more
important health activities—exercise has been one of the important things to
fall by the wayside and I must find a way to eat healthier when on tour—and
more relaxation and de-stressing activities. (Microsoft Word’s autocorrect kept
trying to change “de-stressing” to “distressing.” What is it trying to tell
me?)
That means I have to look at the habits, schedule, and
priorities of my life in a different way and change them to keep what’s working
well and change what isn’t. It also means that all year I’ll be making
adjustments as I see that this or that part of the system isn’t working as well
as I thought it would. That’s the way such transformation happens. I’ve been through
this kind of thing before.
priorities of my life in a different way and change them to keep what’s working
well and change what isn’t. It also means that all year I’ll be making
adjustments as I see that this or that part of the system isn’t working as well
as I thought it would. That’s the way such transformation happens. I’ve been through
this kind of thing before.
This is not a New Year’s resolution. I’m looking at systems
rather than specific goals—for example, how to set up a system to eat healthy and
exercise while traveling rather than a goal of losing so many pounds. I’m looking
at how to make it easier to do the things I want to do this year for a
healthier, more balanced life.
rather than specific goals—for example, how to set up a system to eat healthy and
exercise while traveling rather than a goal of losing so many pounds. I’m looking
at how to make it easier to do the things I want to do this year for a
healthier, more balanced life.
Now that we’re in the middle of the first month of the new
year, how are you doing with your New Year’s resolutions, goals, or plans? Are
you on track? Have you decided to revamp them? to pitch them? And is anyone
else out there always having to relearn this “balance” lesson?
year, how are you doing with your New Year’s resolutions, goals, or plans? Are
you on track? Have you decided to revamp them? to pitch them? And is anyone
else out there always having to relearn this “balance” lesson?
Balance . . . I like that. A friend shared an absolutely daunting list of resolutions she had made for herself . . . after which I decided to resolve to finish a sweater I started five years ago . . . small, achievable, not done yet. 😉 The twinges in my body are convincing me I need more movement/stretching and less close work, a balance of a necessary physical sort, since I've finally figured out I need to take care of the body in which I live . . . and a bit more social life to balance my solitary hermit-like days of reading in pajamas . . . (but inside does feel good on this very cold, snowy day)
I gave up making reservation (except for eating out) a long time ago. Definitely believe finding balance is the way to go — and that it is an easy path to lose. Good luck with your efforts.
Linda, most of my systems have fallen by the way this past year due to family tragedies, crises and illnesses, and disabilities. I waited until today to respond to this post. I needed to let some of it work with what I already had going on in my own feelings and thoughts about my goals for the year.
It has been very difficult sorting through my goals and seeing them as parts of the circle of relationships around me. They have been torn apart by death and tragedies of family and close friends. It seems like I've had spots of sanity scattered throughout, but the rest has been loss and more loss.
I know I must have a plan and a focus that I can adjust to and feel comfortable doing so. Your post—this post—was a gift, because it helped me see my need for a clearer direction that can fit into a usable pattern. I have a vision of a spider web where I have been caught and stuck, but I can see a grid with ladders that I can climb on and use to move away from being stuck—by using the pattern my life has provided me.
I feel very fortunate to have discovered blogs and social media to help resurrect my personhood from several years of unavoidable disruption. Thank you, especially to you, Linda, for being so willing, as so very few people are that I come across in my life, to put your feelings and struggles out there for all who care to listen. These experiences, thoughts, considerations, feelings that we all must experience in some way… They aren't only for us. We live in community, and the effects of our experiences move back into the circle that carries all of us. We have responsibility to the circle.