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Perils of a Big Family

Everyone knows I have a really big family. Not only is mine big, so is my sister’s. She had one less child than I did with 4, but those four have managed to produce 15 with three step kids thrown in there, and then there’s the great grands which I won’t even attempt to count. She hasn’t caught up with me yet.

This June I received so many graduation announcements–middle school, high school, and two Masters degrees. And then there are all the birthdays–I only send birthday greetings to my own children and grandchildren now. (For those that are on Facebook, at least I can say Happy Birthday.) I’ll not even mention Christmas. My sis and I quit giving each other birthday and Christmas gifts long ago when this whole family thing got out of hand.

We are called upon to help out a lot too–we’ve raised a grandson and granddaughter, have another adult grandson living with us. Last week, a grandson called and asked his grandpa if he could come up to the school and help with back-to-school night, cooking hamburgers. He put on his apron and took off.

Sadness and worries abound too. Then there are the illnesses and accidents. Fortunately, we’re a praying family, so people can be assured of many prayers.

We have our share of drama: marriages in trouble, babies arriving without a marriage, teens in trouble, and so on. (My husband says that’s why I watch the soap General Hospital, because they have more problems than our family does.)

Right now, one of my sister’s granddaughters has put herself in peril. She’s 19 with some disabilities, physical and mental. The girl met some older man on Facebook who lived in the big city she lives in and he came and took her to his house. Her brother figured out where and went and brought her back. The guy got her again. A girlfriend went there and took her home. She left again.

Her parents are distraught. It is taking a toll on the mother’s already bad health though she manages to work every day. They’ve gone to the police, but because she’s over 18 and they are not her legal guardians–merely her parents–she can do what she wants.

From what we’ve heard the man has told her that she’s being cheated out of her social security money by her parents. Impossible, since she’s not getting any and never has. Of course she’s unhappy about other things, she thinks her parents are preventing her from going to college and getting a job. Maybe they are, I don’t know. Maybe they’ve been overprotective. She finished high school, but got a special ed. diploma. I’m not around her all that much, but almost every time I have been, she’s had a recent seizure or has had one at whatever event we’re attending including last year’s family reunion.

Of course this young woman is in peril–she has no idea.

Not sure where I’m going with this, I think I just needed to get it out in the open.

On the plus side, I love my family–all of them. Most of the time, things move along well and I get to hear about their accomplishments, the sports the grandkids are excelling in, the dancing competitions, how much they love school, and on and on.

We’ll get through this crisis, we’ve done so with all the others.

Marilyn
http://fictionforyou.com

I write because I can be sure there’ll be a happy ending.

One Thing After Another

When you have a family as big as mine, there’s always something happening.

We’ve had our share of divorces–and I’ve seen what happens to the poor kids when mom and dad finally split. Fortunately, I’ve also seen how the kids have managed to become decent adults after a few mishaps along the way.

Recently touched base with a grandniece (yes, I have a bunch of those too) whose parents divorced when she was a kid, and she’s had four kids who are now 10 and under. She’s working on her GED because she wants to go to the police academy. Her goal is to have a decent job so her kids can go to college and she can retire sometime and not be like her parents. Her father is remarried and raising a new six year old of his and his new wife’s as well as her two teenage daughters. He has his own business, but has to work really hard to make ends meet. Retirement isn’t in his near future. The ex-wife still works as a bartender.

Seems like things go along fine for awhile, then we hear some scary news about someone–an accident or a bad diagnosis, or someone has decided to end a marriage, or one of the grandkids has gotten into trouble. Once in awhile, it’s a new baby on the way.

In some ways it’s almost like living in a soap opera except we’re related to everyone. Maybe that’s why hubby and I like to watch General Hospital, the soap opera, worse things happen to those folks than what happens in the extended Meredith family.

You might ask if I’ve ever used any of our family drama in any of my books–of course I have, not that anyone would recognize it. But how could I not use such a wealth of material when it’s unfolding right in front of my eyes. Usually I don’t use it while it’s fresh–but someday, sometime, one of those incidents will be the perfect element for a story I’m writing.

And of course, having relatives in law enforcement gave me the desire to write about police officers and their families.

Marilyn
http://fictionforyou.com